Of course to hubby and I, we just love each other, have a lot in common, and communicate pretty well with each other. These are some things that are important in any relationship. To some people, we are like big green monsters walking around with like a large yellow eyeball and wearing bright red lipstick. We can't blend in or go in disguise.
|Big green monster with yellow eye ball minus bright red lipstick|
So, we live in one of the southern states in the US (not that the reaction would be much different in the northern states). We visited Sam's Club about a week ago so we can stack up on some goods, since I detest food shopping. With all the stares that we got, you would have thought we were some famous celebrity (like Dolly Parton--lol), or rather two strange creatures from a different planet (like the green monsters mentioned above).
We got stares from the "normal" looking folks and other funny looking people. I thought it was particularly hilarious when a dwarf looking person (no offense) and his very tall wife of the same race was staring. It's so funny because we were staring at them too. I bet they were probably saying, "well heck, we look normal compared to them." And trust me, we were saying the same thing.
I know that people stare for various reasons including: curiosity, to give approval/disapproval, to intimidate, or to find a defect in either of us. I'm sure there are other reasons too that I did not mention. Regardless of the reason, I think staring is kind of rude but as I said, I do it too. I guess I try to do it in a more subtle way. Most of the time we don't notice the stares unless it's very obvious.
I usually respond by either staring back or exchanging a friendly smile (usually while waving). I must confess that when the person is obviously rude, I do "unleash the beast" (as I mentioned before in my "about me" section). My husband usually is very positive about the situation--he smiles boyishly and says, "honey we are superstars." Every time he says this I laugh my butt off, because I know he really feels that way. LOL.
I am not complaining because I know that things could be worse. We could have been born a few years before and it would have been illegal for us to be married in our state. Also, I know that this is a choice that we both made and we are both very happy with. I just thought I would post about it since it's fresh on my mind.
So what are your experiences? As an interracial couple/family, do you get stares? How do you respond to the stares? If you are not in a mixed family, do you stare? If so, why? I'm curious.